I hate my job! How to hate your job less
To say, “I hate my job,” would be normal in this time and age. Over half of the world hate their job because of an irritating boss, annoying work colleagues and gruesome customers who feel entitled. The only reason they stick to their lousy job is because it pays the bills and they need a source for a secure living.
Unfortunately, not everyone has the option to get paid on what they enjoy doing for a living. Only a few lucky people have that privilege, and if you’re like many of my readers, you’re currently on the path of starting an enlightening lifestyle too.
There was a time where I said, “I hate my job.” I never did like the idea of trading my valuable time to slave over someone else’s dream. But it’s a lifestyle we start off with before finally discovering what we want to do with our lives.
Not everyone knows what they want to do for the rest of their life while in High School. (Despite how many times you’re forced to tell your teachers and parents.) Most people only choose a career because it either pays well or they were pressured into it by family or friends.
Most people usually hate their job because they’re forced to be in an environment that makes them miserable. From what I gathered, one of the main reasons anyone hate their job is solely because of the environment they work in.
Maybe you have a screaming boss who doesn’t know how to relax. Maybe you deal with people who disrespect you and treat you like trash. Or maybe you’re the black sheep of a company and you don’t approve of their morals. (It’s kind of awkward to be part of the ‘Naked Friday’ event that’s always happening in the office.)
One of the things that annoyed me most was being forced to answer someone on a daily occasion regarding any tiny news. It didn’t bother me that I had a list of tasks to complete and report whenever they were completed. However, it was the constant nagging I received from my boss that bothered me most.
A constant habit my boss had was hearing the sound of his voice by speaking to either me or his work colleagues about anything that came to mind. It was because of those gruesome moments that made me realized I didn’t want to be in a position of being harassed by others.
But dealing with an irritating boss isn’t the only source of your problems. Let’s cover the annoying work colleagues you surround yourself with on a daily basis. You can have the easiest job in the world, but if the people you work with are constantly raising your stress levels for mundane reasons, you’ll hate it more than gold itself.
However, even if you’re struggling with a stressful job, if you’re surrounded by people who make you laugh and make you feel good about yourself, that job suddenly becomes less stressful than it is.
For instance, I found several enjoyable working gigs that were in very stressful environments. But what made those jobs easy to deal with was the people I connected with there.
We formed a bond because we all faced difficult times together we could only understand. We formed a pack where we all agreed about the strange rules that were imposed in the work place. We complained about the same customers who were hard to deal with. We told each other our secrets, dreams, and goals.
And if you’ve never formed a work group relationship, try connecting to only one person at work. This typically happens in office environments where most people tend to seclude themselves from a social level.
One of the worst parts about having a job you hate is waking up in the morning to it. It’s why you hit the snooze alarm several times before summoning the energy to crawl out of bed. If you think back in time, there must have been plenty of times when you naturally woke up early in the morning because you were excited about something.
Children do this quite often, especially around their birthday or Christmas. And yet, every morning appear to be the same wake-up nightmare that makes you want to place the sheets over your head. This then brings up scary questions people tend to ignore, preferring to live in a false reality of happiness. (Kind of like the Matrix.) Those questions are:
“Should I resign?”
“Should I scream at my boss before quitting?”
“Should I run away from society and drop everything?”
“Why am I working there?”
“Where am I at in my life?”
“I hate my life. What can I do to change it.”
Let’s use our imaginations for a bit. Let’s say you did go to work and after slapping your boss in the face, you quit your job and stomp out of the building with the proudest smile you ever had. I’m a firm believer of chasing after your dreams, but sometimes it’s best to also think about the future first. If you have no plan whatsoever after you quit, life becomes a little difficult. Let me explain the natural process of what happens if you quit your job without a firm plan:
The first week you experience without your job will be enjoyable because you have no work to complete and you could sleep in every morning. You will have the spare time to finally read all those books you previously neglected, watch the movies you intended to watch, and catch up on Netflix. (Like Breaking Bad!) This will be the first stage you experience without a job. It’s very relaxing as you can tell and the lifestyle many would enjoy.
Week 3 or 4
By either the 3rd or 4th week, you start realizing those previous activities you found very exciting starting to become dull and pointless. In fact, you find a lot of things to be very repetitious and boring as you notice your focus diminishing. Video games will start feeling the same and you start predicting the outcome of every movie and show you watch. Drama shows like Maury or Jerry Springer become less entertaining and more sad and repetitive.
Week 8 or 9
By week 8 or 9, your personal and grocery budget have reduced and you’re now forced to eat homemade sandwiches and ramen. Either a bulk of panic starts tingling your brain or a sense of depression forms within your soul. You then start emailing and sending out job applications to get any job you in the market.
Everyday you continue sending out the same application knowing in the back of your mind it’s pointless. You then get more depressed about your life decisions and seclude yourself from your friends and family. Every bill you receive is another slap to the face about your life decisions, and you feel like you’re on the verge of insanity.
Week 11 or 12
By the 11th or 12th week, you realize you don’t have enough money left to keep paying your bills and you resort to asking friends and family for extra income. If your situation worsens, you’re then forced to move in with your parents and return to your old bedroom.
This lowers your pride and you get horrible feelings filling your soul. As more negative energy is released, you start noticing your friends backing away from you because you’ve become a toxic person to be around. You then start feeling depressed and useless about your existence. This is usually the breaking point for people to make 3 decisions:
They finally get another job that they eventually start to hate again
They have a realization of where they want to be at in life, and decide to work hard to get there
They lose the will to go on
Out of the 3 outcomes, number 3 is the one I never want anyone to experience. It’s truly a scary road to travel and only very few get out of it. The 1st choice is usually chosen by 90% of society as the remaining 10% pick choice number 2. Each choice lead to an extremely different outcome in your life, and the difference is night and day. (Or evening I suppose if we were to add a third outcome.)
I’m not recommending that you remain at your current job if you hate it with a passion, but don’t recklessly quit if you don’t have a backup plan or skill you’ve been working on. If you have no skills and want to learn one that will make you money, we have a list of websites that could help you with that. Use the spare time you have at home to enhance your skills based on what you enjoy.
Amanda Hocking is someone I admire because that’s exactly what she did. Even though she had a job she didn’t enjoy that much, she spent long hours every night working on her books.
She faced dozens and dozens of rejected manuscripts, but continued writing her novels while drinking a ton of red bull to keep her awake. Eventually, she decided to self-publish her work and overtime, her books became a success and she made over a million dollars from them. (Like a boss if I may add.)
Like her, don’t let your job define you. Let it be the income tool you currently use while building your skills that could earn you a steady living once you decide to quit your job. If you want to quit your job as soon as you can, begin saving money in any way possible.
Spend less time with your friends and at parties and start focusing on your dreams. While you’re at your job, here are 4 useful tips to keep in mind so you don’t make any rash decisions and quit before having a plan of some sorts.
Do you hate your job? How to hate your job less
1. Constantly Remind yourself that it’s only temporarily
If you set bigger goals for yourself and where you want to be at, it makes the little problems like your job much smaller. Concentrate on where you want to be and know your current job is only a temporary tool.
This reminder relieves you of most of the stress you experience from your job because you will consciously know you’re heading for better places. People who don’t look at their future tend to settle for being in the moment, and though they complain, they never do anything about it. Even if you find yourself complaining about your job from time to time, it’ll only increases your motivation to keep trying harder to reach your goals.
2. Find humor and joy where you’re at
The way you view life makes a huge impact in your destiny. A habit I learned was that our emotions reflect our actions. So if you’re constantly complaining about your job and how life is unfair, life becomes hard to maintain.
Our first response to negative situations may be complaining about them, but change those thoughts by telling yourself you’re better than that. See the situation from a different perspective and understand it for what it is. You may not like it and may even hate it, but don’t let your emotions shift in auto-pilot. This makes us do things we regret later. (Like drug dealing or other naughty deeds I’d rather not mention.)
3. Motivate yourself with a desire to help others
There’s a strange source of motivation that seems to pop into people heads whenever they stop working for themselves and do something to help others. Humans have a natural yearn to want to help others, and the reason we normally don’t is because of fear.
Maybe we don’t want to help someone financially because we’re afraid they’ll only waste our hard earn dollar. Or maybe we’re afraid that person might hurt us if we try to reach out to them.
If you stop thinking about your job as a work assignment and rather as something that positively changes a person’s life, it triggers a strange happiness within you to work harder. Even if you’re a cashier at a grocery store, you could change someone’s life for the better by simply smiling and telling them, “Hello, I hope you have a great day.”
4. Talk to Someone
Even as productive as those 3 exercises mentioned above are, talking to someone about your trouble could be effective. Communication is mandatory for anyone who wants to maintain a healthy lifestyle and mental focus. And if you’re struggling with ways to master your conversationalist skills, check out the 10 Laws that Conversationalists use to win people over.
You need an external force to release your bitterness to. If you work somewhere you truly hate, it’s necessary to release your anger by speaking to someone close to you. (Or else you might end up going postal one day.)
Tell someone what’s bothering you and why you’re angry. The sooner you release those negative feelings, the sooner you’ll recollect your thoughts and face life with a proud attitude. To get rid of those annoying thoughts trapped in your head, talk to someone. If it helps, speak to someone in the Chat Room and tell someone about it.
In final thoughts….
Avoid thinking the thought, “I hate my job” because it brings negative tensions in your mind. Instead, think of where you’re going and how your job will be one of the many chapters to get there.
How you go about your job is up to you. Obviously you won’t have all the answers you want immediately. It takes time, self-reflection and meditation to determine where you truly want to go. You need to ignore the critics of the world and concentrate on what you want.
If you’d like some guidance on how to determine your destiny, we have a topic revolving around it. If you’re having trouble starting your goals and need some motivation, we describe the method to get it here. What you decide is up to you. All you really need to do is to start.