When you suffer from depression, you tend to lose interest in a lot of activities. Just getting out of bed in the morning is a major challenge by itself. Each day start becoming more and more tiresome than before and everything appears pointless. You question yourself and what you should be doing with your life, wondering what could relinquish you from those dreadful thoughts.
Depression is a convincing liar because it tells you you’d rather stay at home and be lazy than spend time with your friends and family. It keeps you from doing things you want to do in exchange for staying at home on the computer all day and doing mindless activities to temporarily escape reality.
When overcoming depression, you must reflect on yourself and the areas in your life causing those dreadful thoughts. For some people, it’s their job that’s torturing them. For others, it’s their relationships.
There’s never an easy solution for curing your depression because it comes from a variety of sources, but there are ways to properly approach and overcome them. It won’t be a one day process, but through consistent effort, you’ll find the light to happiness.
Here are 5 things that could be giving you a depressed life….
1. Your personal relationships
There’s many causes for a relationship struggle. One being financial reasons. Perhaps you make more money than your partner or your partner is financially dependent on you. Or maybe your partner continues to waste your money away by buying useless and expensive products. As much as we’d like to pretend money sharing in a relationship doesn’t affect us, it entirely does.
The list of relationship problems happens because of money alone. But if you’d like to get deeper than that, there’s a psychological reason couples meet those issues. And that’s because of trust. Sharing your money with someone else involves giving your trust to them to spend it in the way you hope.
You’re not going to tell them how you’d like them to spend your money, but you will always have expectations. While you’d like your partner to only spoil themselves once in a while, they might do it every day. And the more you watch them mindlessly spend your hard earned money, the more resentment you hold towards them.
Humans are fearful of trusting someone with their finances because there’s always a possibility they might waste it. They avoid handing small change to homeless people because of not selfish reasons, but because of caution to avoid their money being invested in alcohol or drugs. (Well technically alcohol is a type of drug…but you know what I mean.)
If you’re bad at keeping your finances together, have your partner be in charge of the finances. If you’re both bad at responsibly spending money, find a trustworthy financial advisory for support. Once your money problems are in a more controlled environment, it lessens those type of arguments.
The other major barrier that ruins a relationship is a lack of communication. If you’re creating barriers for your partner, learn to hear what they have to say and listen to the meaning of their words.
Show empathy towards your partner problems and search beneath their feelings to gain a better understanding of what they’re going through. You might not have the answer they’re looking for, but just being an opened ear will be enough to satisfy them. If you’d like more information on saving a relationship, this Guide will be a good place to start.
2. Lack of Professional treatment
There’s nothing wrong with visiting Doctors or Therapists who can help you with your depression. They act as the source to determine if you’re diagnosed with bipolar or ADHD.
When you’re depressed, there could be a wide range of symptoms you’re mentally facing and it can be difficult to determine by yourself. Sometimes the best choice is to seek after a professional’s opinion. A psychologist or well-trained Therapist could break down what’s causing your depression and determine the best ways to correct them.
If you’d like to take a 101 question test (which will take around 30 minutes to complete) that will determine your depression levels, the link to it is below.
Don’t get me wrong, you’ll experience a few trial and errors to discover the exact type of illness you’re under, but once they spot it, it’ll be the first major step to gluing your life together.
Depression treatments take time and could be frustrating to deal with, which is why you’ll need social support along the way. Seek attention from only family members and trustworthy friends for affectionate support.
Just remember when the average person face depression, it’s normally because they’re overwhelmed and facing serious issues. Professional treatments are meant to temporarily take you away from reality to locate the main cause for your depression.
Once located, you’ll have to find the best ways to change your life whether it’s deals with your relationships, finances, or personal problems.
3. Your Family Relationships
Improve your relationship with your parents or guardians by opening up to them more often. Reach out to family and don’t let pride get in the way if you need to borrow money from them. Don’t be irresponsible by buying an Xbox or else you’ll lose their trust forever. Determine how to use that money wisely and if necessary, temporarily move in with your family.
Don’t ruin your trust by forgetting your goals and browsing mindlessly through life. You’re no longer a child and have to thrive for independence. This starts by proving you’re financially responsibility and have a willingness to get your life together. Even if you have to sleep on the couch or floor, stay with someone in your family for a few months and use that time to build your personal income.
Without little to no bills to pay, it’ll be easier to raise some money and start an independent life. When you have enough money, buy a car to get to work or buy the resources you need to get your feet easier. After saving enough money to independently support yourself, rent an apartment or room and you’ll be on the right track.
Next will be correcting your own actions and accepting yourself for who you are. Accept your insecurities and appreciate your flaws. Avoid being self-critical and verbally assaulting yourself for every little mistake. Mentally torturing yourself will only make it easier for other people to put you down with their words.
4. Lack of control over the small things
Start enjoying the little things in life. Take control of your eating habits, better your hygiene and remember to exercise more often. Little things like those increase your self-appreciation more than the average person and build your self-esteem. If you find yourself getting drunk every night, get your drinking habits under control by consuming adequate moderations.
Learning to love yourself could be hard after failing something, experiencing a breakup, or looking in the mirror after waking up in the morning. But to start raising your confidence, embrace the small things you enjoy doing. Spend time alone with yourself and do something you like without thinking about the judgment of others.
From time to time, dwell on how far you’ve come and all the accomplishments you achieved. Whether big or small, proudly embrace every achievement you made possible. The key to taking control of the big areas in your life is learning how to control the small. So start off everyday with a journal to see what you’ve done.
5. Bad Management over the piggy bank
When you’re trapped by a mountain of debt, you eventually stop opening the bills. It’s annoying being constantly reminded how much you owe someone, feeling like a slave. But it’s definitely not the end of the world when you face high debt. All it’ll do is make your credit score a little ugly. But in time, it could fixed once you take control of it.
If you’re deep in debt, the first thing you have to do is take control of it. Start with small payments and avoid stressing yourself by setting it to automatic. To effectively map out your situation you’re in is taking a sheet of paper (or using excel for you technically advanced people) and writing the top creditors you owe money to along with your monthly payments. To add extra details, list the monthly due dates next to them.
Next, write what your income is for the month and prioritize what you should spend your money on. Don’t go to Starbucks when you could make the same type of coffee at home. Don’t bother going to the movies when there’s Redbox or Netflix. Save your receipts to keep track of your spending and pay with only cash.
Even though you won’t be able to immediately pay off all your bills, writing them out makes you feel better because you’ll be in control. You’ll have a solid concept of what you have to pay and how you’re going to get there. It’s initially annoying to track every bill and payment, but it gets easier after the first week or so. Create a habit for yourself for whatever works easier for you and see what gives you a sense of freedom.
Well planned methods let you take control of your financials and boost your self-esteem. Rather than drowning in the ocean of debt, learn how to swim past the waves and currents.
This won’t be an overnight fix. (Unless you won the lottery.) You probably won’t pay off your debt within the first year you start this plan. But having a plan means giving yourself a prime focus to aim for. Keep your goals as a priority by saving every penny you obtain and tracking your progress.
Find any areas that gave you a depressed life? Have any personal experiences you’d like to share?