21 Inspirational Relationship Quotes
When I was going through my self reflection, a recent discovery I had was remembering my relationships. I thought about my previous and current relationships. I remembered all the times I messed up a relationship and was too proud to fix it. I recalled the times where I was terrified of a relationship ending, so I ended it myself to prevent that awful day from unpredictably happening to me one day.
Even now, the rules to holding a stable relationship seems simple and complicated. We see people married for several decades and become awed at it because it seems puzzling as to how two people spent that much time together.
But the longer I dwelt on those thoughts, the more I questioned the problems most people had with keeping a healthy relationship alive. Without providing the daily maintenance of keeping it healthy, it’s doomed to break. If all a couple goes off of is a sexual relationship, the love breaks once they get a chance to know each other. If there’s a lack of communication, any relationship becomes void and pointless at some point.
Though there’s many articles on my site explaining ways to fix a relationship, I decided to list a few more pointers. Underneath those 3 pointers are 21 inspirational quotes on how to fix a relationship. Though reading steps and guidelines are necessary when searching for ways to fix your relationship, sometimes all it takes is a quote to trigger a thought.
1. Accepting Rejection for what it is
Before anyone gets in a relationship, they have to overcome the fear of rejection. No one naturally likes rejection because it simply sucks and is a self-esteem killer. But a way to fight those unwanted thoughts is being glad when someone rejects your love and showing kindness in return.
It’s tempting to want to inflict some sort of harm or express depression when we’re rejected, but fight those thoughts. There have always been two ways I’ve viewed rejections as:
a) Nearly everyone likes cake, but they’re not going to be in the mood for it all the time. Maybe they’ll be in the mood for cake tomorrow or the next day. Such as that, don’t think of her as forever rejecting you. Think of it as her way of telling you she’s not ready to have a taste of you yet.
b) You save a ton of time because you avoided spending time with someone who didn’t match your chemistry. Instead of bending over and jumping through hoops to earn their approval, all you have to be concerned about is finding someone who matches your chemistry. Don’t trap yourself in a miserable relationship you know will end in a few months. Avoid it and find someone who you can spend the rest of your life with.
As long as you love yourself for the way you are, you shouldn’t be concerned by the opinions of others. Avoid the temptation of comparing yourself to others to prove your self-worth. When you love yourself for the way you are, it takes no effort to build natural relationships.
Find what works for you and build it up. The act of self improvement changes your characteristics for the best. You’ll feel better about your abilities and be too busy to care about rejections.
2. Avoid Playing the Blame Game
At some point in a relationship, every couple will face an argument or fight. It’s how problems are dealt with instead of holding in all your anger until one day you’re both exploding with rage. If there’s any issues going on in your relationship, stop focusing on who’s to blame.
Most arguments fail to end peacefully because someone is always blaming the other. Couples are quick to develop child-like behaviors to avoid being wrong. (Even if they are wrong.)
Instead, when you’re going about the problem you’re both facing, direct the blame towards the problem itself. Explain how the problem triggered your emotion and thought process. Showing your partner that you’re opening up to them naturally makes them want to express similar traits.
By seeming genuine in what you’re saying, you get past the blame game and find a solution towards the problem. Nobody likes to be the reason a relationship fails and turns defensive and angry as a result. If there’s an issue you’re dealing with, point at the problem versus yourself or your partner.
3. Learn to Establish Trust
Without some level of trust in a relationship, it’s bound to either fail or become unstable. This normally occurs when someone in a relationship is paranoid about what the other person is doing on a daily basis. There’s nothing wrong with having a little bit of jealously, but it becomes destructive once it transform into an obsession.
If you suspect your partner has trust issues with you, take the moment to speak to them. Tell them about your day and what you’ve done. Open up your life to them and tell them what’s on your mind. Don’t let the conversation last for 5 – 10 minutes.
Make it around 25 – 30 minutes s you both have a total understanding of what’s going on. Once your partner receives positive feelings that they’re still important to you, it’ll lower their jealous traits.
If you’re the one dealing with jealously issues, the next time you’re conjuring up crazy thoughts of who your partner is cheating with, take a moment to yourself. Think of all the positive moments you two shared and how happy you are together. Invading another person with your insecurities and lack of trust pushes them away from you and eventually cause them to either cheat or break up with you.
21 Inspirational Relationship Quotes
1. “I want to grow a flower for every time someone tells me “F*** you.” Then I’ll go back to that person and pin the flower on their lapel in a gesture of friendship. And while they are looking down on it in astonishment, I’ll bunch up my knuckles and punch them in the face.”
― Jarod Kintz, I Want Two apply for a job at our country’s largest funeral home, and then wear a suit and noose to the job interview.
2. “Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
― Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember
3. “Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
― Haruki Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart
4. “Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing.”
― Brian L. Weiss, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love
6. “There are so many things that demand to be said. Where did you go? Do you ever think about me? You’ve ruined me. Are you okay? But of course, I can’t say any of that.”
― Gayle Forman, Where She Went
7. “He wasn’t the type for displays of affection, either verbal or not. He was disgusted by couples that made out in the hallways between classes, and got annoyed at even the slightest sappy moments in movies. But I knew he cared about me: he just conveyed it more subtly, as concise with expressing this emotion as he was with everything else. It was in the way he’d put his hand on the small of my back, for instance, or how he’d smile at me when I said something that surprised him. Once I might have wanted more, but I’d come around to his way of thinking in the time we’d been together. And we were together, all the time. So he didn’t have to prove how he felt about me. Like so much else, I should just know.”
― Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever
8. “Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.”
― Shannon L. Alder
9. “I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime.”
― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
10. “You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
― Julie de Lespinasse
11. “I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
― Wm. Paul Young, The Shack
13. “There are no coincidences in life. What person that wandered in and out of your life was there for some purpose, even if they caused you harm. Sometimes, it doesn’t make sense the short periods of time we get with people, or the outcomes from their choices. However, if you turn it over to God he promises that you will see the big picture in the hereafter. Nothing is too small to be a mistake.”
― Shannon L. Alder
14. “Love is a commitment that will be tested in the most vulnerable areas of spirituality, a commitment that will force you to make some very difficult choices. It is a commitment that demands that you deal with your lust, your greed, your pride, your power, your desire to control, your temper, your patience, and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.”
― Ravi Zacharias, I, Isaac, Take Thee, Rebekah: Moving from Romance to Lasting Love
15. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown
16. “If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
― Shannon L. Alder
17. “Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
― Adam S. McHugh
18. “I don’t understand dating.. and the other things that people do.. all I know is that you ought to find the one you recognize. The one who gives you four arms, four legs, four eyes, and has the other half of your heart. There’s only one of those, so what are all the other things for? Like dating?”
― C. JoyBell C.
19. “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
20. “I used to think I knew everything. I was a “smart person” who “got things done,” and because of that, the higher I climbed, the more I could look down and scoff at what seemed silly or simple, even religion.
But I realized something as I drove home that night: that I am neither better nor smarter, only luckier. And I should be ashamed of thinking I knew everything, because you can know the whole world and still feel lost in it. So many people are in pain-no matter how smart or accomplished-they cry, they yearn, they hurt.But instead of looking down on things, they look up, which is where I should have been looking, too. Because when the world quiets to the sound of your own breathing, we all want the same things:comfort, love, and a peaceful heart.”
― Mitch Albom, Have a Little Faith: a True Story
21. “Unlike the effects of warm showers that slowly pulls you into a relaxed state, ice cold water will no doubtfully quicken your responsiveness to reality. Not only will your heart rate increase, you’ll be more energized and willing to forget the bad troubling your mind. From there, it’ll be much easier to concentrate on other areas such as your goals or dreams.”
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