Healthy Lifestyle: The 7 “Don’ts” to Follow When Establishing One


The 7 “Don’ts” to Follow When Establishing a Healthy Lifestyle

A healthy lifestyle means more than just eating the proper foods and exercising. It means building your mentality, judgments, and overall effort to be the best version of yourself.

Many people start this path when they have an ambition they want to follow, but most fall under the 7 traps that brings them back to square one with a lowered self-esteem. To counteract those video game traps when picking up a healthy lifestyle, there are the 7 dangerous “don’ts” to follow.

1. Don’t Overload on the Fear of Failure

Since childhood, you’ve probably been raised with the belief that failure is a horrible experience to embrace. Whether it’s failing your test or losing a game, failure is often looked down upon because people take it as a representation of themselves. But it’s perfectly natural to fail. In fact, it’s dang-well told by researchers and professors themselves that it’s healthy to fail something at least once.

Jerker Denrell, an associate professor of organizational behavior, suggests that:

“Studying successes without also looking at failures tends to create a misleading-if not entirely wrong- picture of what it takes to succeed.”

Science freaking rules!

Without failure, people will never know their own flaws and will lose the motivation to continue building themselves up. Without failure, by the time someone meets an edgy situation, they won’t have the backbone to push through it.

Let’s take a guy named Bob. Bob’s amazing, smart, and seems to be the luckiest person in the world. He’s so lucky that you’d probably want to punch him if you ever met him.

Bob was raised his entire life with the belief that he’s special and the whole world should be given to him. He goes to a good school, receive good grades, and graduated from a top-leveled university.

However, when Bob starts his new job at a major corporation, he suddenly is met with obstacles. He has to compete against other employees who’s sucking up to the boss. His supervisor is critiquing his every mistake and those comments are lowering Bob’s self-esteem because he isn’t used to them.

He begins doubting his ability as the small criticisms begin accumulating in his head. Before he knows it, he considers himself worthless and lost his value to the world because he isn’t familiar with this mindset.

See the problem there? Failure provides you with the opportunity to witness what went wrong and how can you improve yourself to fix those mistakes and become stronger.

Everyone’s bound to fail at least a few times when they’re either building a business, writing a novel, or forming new habits. But what separates them from the crowd is the ability to accept failure despite how difficult it might be, and continue moving forward.

Never pretend failure doesn’t exist from your children because if they grow up with the belief that everyone “wins“, that sets them on a path of failure. They develop unnatural beliefs about the world and will expect things to simply be given to them. Instead, teach them the importance of hard work, working intelligently, and knowing the true values of using their failures to reach success.

And if you’re still struggling with getting past failure, take a look at this baby to help you beat those thoughts.

2. Don’t Look for the Shortcuts in Life

We live in a society where shortcuts are the natural norm. We want the beach body, but only if it could be done within a week. We want to learn a language, but only if it can be mastered in under a month. People want the fast route to just about anything they can think of because we live in the age of instant speed internet.

But when you give that insane expectancy towards your career, goals or dreams you’re setting yourself up for a trap. Despite how well we developed technology and products, life doesn’t work in that fashion. Behind every “overnight” success story came a long trail of hard work, late nights, and temptations to want to give up.

To master a habit or a healthy lifestyle, you need to acquire a multitude of tiny steps that will lead you there. Take for instance if you were building a puzzle. You can’t expect to magically put all the pieces together after one wave of your hand.

It’s going to require digging through that box and shuffling through a hundred tiny pieces until you find the right piece that fits. Don’t bite off the puzzle pieces so it fits in the spot you want or else you’ll cause problems for yourself in the future.

The same principle relates to your own life. When you take on big challenges with the expectancy of completing them in a short time, you overwhelm yourself and start back at square one. Except this time you’ll see yourself less likely reaching that goal next time and possibly giving up because you labeled it in the “impossible” category.

Instead, start small and when you feel comfortable enough, build up from there. Your chances for success increases drastically when you gradually build yourself up. Such as a video game, where you start at level one and continue on from there, use the same method in life.

Start on level one where it’ll be easy to begin at and continue on until you reach the next level. You might fail before proceeding to the next level, but that’s why you need to continue until you know how to reach level 2, 3, 4, or 100.

3. Don’t forget the importance of Building a Habit

Without habits, people will continuously jump from one activity to the next with no end point. We need habits to create a balanced healthy lifestyle. Habits develop into your character and mindset, and it eventually becomes a part of your life.

Take for instance brushing your teethes. By forcing yourself to brush your teethes everyday, it gets easier to follow despite how tired you are. Then, overtime, as you continue this gradual buildup, your teethes will show major improvements than they were before. Without even thinking about it, you’ll find yourself in front of that mirror with a stick in your mouth.

When you’re developing a healthy lifestyle, ensure you enforce a habit you can follow daily. It can be drinking a glass of water after waking up. It could be waking up earlier than usual to be more productive throughout your day. It can be meditating for a given timeframe.

Need more examples, check out the 5 Proven Mindfulness Exercises that can help you.


It doesn’t matter what it is, but when you set time for yourself everyday to do something, that habit gets ingrained into your life. It becomes no longer a decision of “should I” and it transforms into the thoughts of, “when can I?

4. Don’t Forget to Put Your Trust in Others

Don’t be afraid of telling others about plans when developing a healthy lifestyle. Sometimes, people can’t do everything alone and need social support. Because every time you’re on the verge of giving up to the dark side, you’ll have someone by your side reminding you why you shouldn’t.

Keep those close to you updated on your progress so you can also remind yourself how far you’ve gotten. Set goals for yourself weekly and never be afraid of answering someone who asks about your progress.

I like to think of this method of, “Did you finish your homework” concept when a parent bugs their child. As bothering as this question is, a child is more likely to snap out of their procrastinating habit and finally work on their homework to avoid answering that question again.

Such as that concept, have your friends or family act as that “parental” reminder. You might not want to be asked about your exercise progress, but I bet you’ll be more likely to work out than to give another awkward excuse as to why you neglected it.

5. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

It’s extremely easy to compare ourselves with the rest of the world. But constantly judging yourself to others, especially if they have “more” than you, will send your self-esteem plummeting like a snowball. There will always be someone who has more than you in some categories whether it be in wealth, stealth, or health. (The original word was relationship, but I thought it sounded cooler if it all rhymed.)

But comparing yourself to them isn’t doing you any good. Instead, you’ll only be measuring yourself to a force that doesn’t relate to you.

The only person you should compare yourself to is your past self. You should always search for ways to surpass the person you were yesterday. Whether it’s in knowledge or fitness, seek to improve yourself more than the yesterday you. That way, your self-esteem will only increase and you’ll always set yourself a reasonable challenge to beat.

Settling for a healthy lifestyle isn’t about anyone else’s life except yours. If you compare your life to anyone else’s, you’re seeking to live the life given to them rather than your own. When you look into other people lives, never compare their house to yours. Instead, examine what they did to get that house so you can apply those methods into your own life.

6. Don’t approach your emotions negatively

Everyday, people shove their negative emotions to the back of their mind, thinking that it’s perfectly okay to do so. They make the mistake of allowing the pain from their past take control of their life. They let it define their identity and control how they behave. But do you want to know something?

Your emotions, thoughts, and perceptions are what makes you who you are this very moment.

Avoid allowing negative emotions to take control and give you the false assumptions you have a horrible life. By releasing your past for what it is and accepting the present for what it is, you take charge of the future. You become the writer of your life.

7. Don’t Forget why You want a Healthy Lifestyle

Most of the time when someone wants to change their life and develop a healthy lifestyle, that motivation originates from other sources. Those sources are normally from their family, friends, or strangers they get pressured by.

Some people may not enjoy drinking, but will do it just to avoid appearing as the loser in front of their friends. Some people want to be an artist, but will major in medical school because their parents told them to.

Take for instance Bob, whose only purpose for working out was to get the attention of a girl he had a crush on. He continued working out everyday in hopes that he would gain her attention with a beach body. But as soon as she started dating someone who weighed more than him, he lost his motivation to workout and gave up.

If you don’t take a conscious effort to know why you want a healthy lifestyle for yourself, you’re only setting a temporarily timer to fail. During your self development journey, you’re going to encounter hard moments that will question your integrity and willpower. It will be during those harsh moments that determines if you’re willing to stick to your goals and ambitions. 

Ensure that any life changes you want actually originates from your own desires and interests rather than someone else’s. Forget what they want because your life doesn’t belong to them. Even your parents don’t have the right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. Know your values, interests, and ambitions if you want a life changing discovery.


About Author

Besides being random and dealing with ADHD from time to time, Michael Gregory II is the CEO of the Self Development Workshop. He's traveled to over a dozen countries, counselled a variety of people, and continues furthering his knowledge in self-development, depression, and mastering your happiness. On his lazy days, he enjoy watching people, reading in Starbucks, and speaking to random strangers. (Yeah, he’s weird.)


  1. Excellent points Michael. Your point about not looking for short cuts is very true. I hear about so many people who jump headlong into a diet that is totally different from what they are used to that they then wonder why their bodies rebel. Taking things gradually is certainly the way to go.

    Your point about not forgetting why you want a healthy lifestyle reminds me of when I gave up drinking alcohol because it gave me a migraines. When my husband and I went out with friends they would often urge me to drink saying it would do me good! In the beginning it was tempting but they didn’t have to suffer the migraine afterwards so I stuck to my guns. Not exactly what you were talking about but it just reminded me of that stage in my life. This was pressurization in reverse!

  2. Great article and I can definitely relate to Number 1, fear of failure. I know many times I have get a grip on failure or what I perceive as failure. But I agree we can use failure to grow toward success. This is an awesome article to point this out.

    The other important point is to never compare yourself to others. I think all the others are important but for me these two lead to great inner grow helping us. I feel that if we are mentally prepared, then developing that health lifestyle is always closer.

    Great job.

  3. Thanks for those encouraging words Barbara! I know a personal problem I tend to have is comparing myself to others. I’ve managed to cut it down drastically, but I still experience those moments where I’m tempted to do so. So it takes consciously reminding myself that the only person I need to compare myself to is my yesterday self.

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