Why you REALLY hate your job and What to do about it
It’s human nature to hate anything they’re forced to do daily for the rest of their life. Even if it’s a passion they enjoy, when forced to commit to it daily by an outside force, anyone will come to hate it.
Your mind is tricky towards the realm of motivation and doing what you want to do. It savors the taste of freewill and doing what you enjoy rather than being imprisoned into it. It’s why CEOs don’t mind working late on their own companies for little pay versus being paid a crap ton of money at some company you can barely tolerate.
When you’re forced into a situation, it drains your motivation because you’re no longer doing it for yourself, but rather for an external force. It slowly takes away the idea that you have a freewill to do what you prefer and you’re trapped under someone’s spell.
To paint a prettier picture, compare working at a job you don’t hate that much to spending your free time at the bar. Sure, perhaps when you started working at your job you felt a slight excitement for the first couple of weeks.
But as time passed, that excitement died down because it became mundane as you realize just how little freewill you have. You realized you’re forced to wake up every morning only because you’re obligated to, rather than your free choice. You realize that you’re expected to do a series of tasks only because someone is forcing you.
Now compare that to having a fun time at a bar and suddenly it seems strange. Though you probably won’t do much at a bar other than sit down and have a few drinks, it’ll always be better than being at work.
That’s because unlike work, you can make the decision on what you want to do. You can get up whenever you please. Speak to anyone you desire. Or be as loud as you prefer. You have the chance to practice your freewill and do something only because you were interested in it.
When humans are obligated to work on something on a continuous basis, they feel entrapped into that lifestyle and eventually come to hate whatever it is. Their job begins taking the shape of a prison cell rather than a comfortable space to work at. People need to feel in control in some way, or else they feel like a robot forced to complete the same tasks until they’re allowed to go home.
One of the reasons I love writing is because it’s something I necessarily don’t have to do unless I want to. I don’t have to worry about answering to anybody because it’s my own decision to write at my keyboard. I write when I want to escape my thoughts and see them make sense on a piece of paper.
However, if I was suddenly FORCED to write articles every day and report them to someone, I would come to hate it. It’ll no longer be a journey on ways to improve myself. It’ll just be another job where I’m forced to answer to someone and make deadlines. I will only work for money or other benefactors that mark my interest. I would be a caged bird rather than a free one.
Whenever you do anything you love not because of freewill, but because of force, that love transform into hate. The relationship between you and your job will be a spiteful one because you’ll always see it as something that’s abusing your very existence. You can’t leave it because you need a source of income, however staying with it is tearing your soul apart.
Normally, whenever someone is paid to do a job, it often makes the job unpleasant to be in. For instance, if you volunteered anywhere, you wouldn’t receive the same type of stress you receive working at a job just as hard. Instead, you’ll get those positive jitters because you’re spending your free time doing work that you choose to do.
How do you counter your hatred for a job you can’t escape?
Simply take control of your work
To hate your job less, you need to regain control of your freewill. You need to take as much control of your job as possible. This means improving yourself at wherever you work at and getting better at it from day-to-day. Even if it’s as something as simple as flipping burgers or washing dishes, own it like you were a master at it.
The better you make yourself at something, the greater purpose you feed your mind. You gain a sense of developing yourself into a better person for future events you’d might want to do. Prove to yourself that you’re capable of running a company on your own one day by mastering the simple tasks given to you.
Don’t view your job as a prison you’re forced to attend. See it as a training opportunity to strengthen your skills and learn something new. The more you deliberately practice the art of taking control of what you’ve been put in charge of, the greater sense of control you’re given.
If you haven’t found what your passion is, master your job as you figure out what you enjoy. People often say, “Follow your passion,” but everyone doesn’t know what they enjoy exactly. Leave behind those conceited thoughts that hand you anxiety because you’re not sure what you should do with your life. And if you’re searching for your passion, check it out because there’s easy way to find it such as Leonardo da Vinci did.
Remind yourself not to take life that seriously because you entered this world with nothing and you will leave it with nothing. When you die, you won’t have your money, your career, or your possessions. All you should focus on are ways to master whatever you’re currently working on as you dive into other passions that interest you. Entertain your life by dabbling in a mixture of passions that appeals to you.
See what you can offer the world and escape being paid just enough to live and nothing else. Your life means much more than that. You’re destined to explore things you’ve never done before, expand your knowledge. Such as when you were a child, you explored the world and learned about it daily. But suddenly, when the world slapped you to believe in its false beliefs, you took the path that they did.
It’s not normal to hate your job because humans aren’t designed to work 8 hours a day. They’re designed to work when it’s necessary or feel like it. Back in rural ages, most people worked as farmers and worked as a means to feed themselves. The work was hard, but it wasn’t like they could simply quit and starve to death.
In today’s time, you’re not given the same alternative. You have options to do what you desire. You might struggle at first, but it won’t mean instant death like it did in the past. You’ll learn about the world and about yourself. You’ll learn that there’s greater things to life than just working behind a desk 8 hours a day just to buy things that’ll distract you in life.
We’re taught that a “perfect” lifestyle means buying a giant house and having a great car, but that’s only because it’s what’s been imprinted in our brains.
Material things wear and tear. You might have been excited to buy that special shirt, but now it’s just sitting your closet with the rest of your clothing. It’s experience and emotions that fulfill your life. It’s knowing the challenges you took and how you reacted to them that you remember the most.
When you’re at your deathbed, you’re not going to think about what you didn’t managed to buy or how much money you bought. You’re going to think about the people who’s in your life. The way you changed other people lives. The things that you saw and the feelings that you received.
When you think back on a time when you were younger with more energy, you enjoyed drawing, writing, and playing outside. Nothing in the world seemed out of your control and your main focus wasn’t gathering money. It was doing whatever you thought would make you the happiest.
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