How to Get Rid of Anxiety Before It’s Too Late

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How to Get Rid of Anxiety Before It’s Too Late

Yes, most people deal with anxiety. You and me and nearly everyone else you met. Some people are controlled by their anxiety as others keep it under their control.

Does it mean we’re doomed to fail because we deal with anxiety? No, because if you didn’t have some level of anxiety in you, you’ll be considered a psycho.

We need anxiety because it keeps us from doing stupid things. Anxiety brings up the possibilities of what could happen if you jump off a plane without a parachute. It keeps your head together on the possibilities of visiting a bad neighborhood. It raises your suspicion whenever you see the brown part of a banana.

But when you allow anxiety to manipulate your best judgments, you end up making silly mistakes. You blame yourself because of some jerk comments and think their words define you. You believe you need to maintain a certain standard to receive the same level of respect. So what are the solutions to arresting these negative thoughts?

 

Pull a Whip to Your Thoughts

The key to getting rid of anxiety is to train yourself to become conscious of it the moment it begins to manifest inside you. Although anxiety normally twists and strangles your emotions and feelings, the root of it resides in your thoughts.

Whether you’re imagining terrifying results or an uncomfortable past, anxiety often relate to the dramatic tendency of the mind. The more you dwell on the possibilities of failing, the more you think about unwanted results and how horrible your life will become.

And after a certain period of thinking those same negative thoughts, you no longer see the results as being a possibility, but rather a grantee result. Your mind constantly rerun the same negative thoughts that eventually mold a new belief within your body. Your heart constantly races, continuously living on the edge of worry.

But before you continue dwelling on the same thoughts, stop and live in that moment. Truly think over your thoughts and the natural conclusions of them. It will be slightly difficult to initially master this ability and it might even require a pen and piece of paper to write it down. But whenever you dwell on the complexities of anxiety, stop yourself and distinguish what’s really worrying you.

John might be afraid to speak to females because he’s afraid of what they’ll think of him if he messes up. He’s afraid they won’t think he’s attractive enough or not confident. He then conjures up the idea that his self esteem will lower and he’ll be alone forever. So to prevent those unwanted feelings, he stops himself from approaching women.

Instead of making the mistake John constantly do, make a habit of listening to exactly what your inner thoughts are saying. Sure, perhaps you will consider the possibilities of being rejected, but don’t take that as a means of forever being alone. Make yourself aware of the dangers of using words such as, “always” “never” or “forever.

Language is a very powerful medium that can backfire against you if used improperly. Although you might assume saying, “I’ll always be alone,” or “I’ll never get where I want to be,” might be a casual saying in your vocabulary, your subconscious can take it as an entirely different meaning.

Your subconscious may be a powerful mechanism inside your head, but it lacks the powers that your conscious mind contain, which is the ability to distinguish what you really mean.

Although your conscious may constantly tell itself that you’re an idiot who’ll always be alone, your subconscious is going to act as the blind idiot who’ll believe that.

Overtime, the more you say negative thoughts to yourself, the more your subconscious is going to take those words into consideration. You’ll find yourself making stupid mistakes and repeatedly perform a self-fulfilling prophesy. 

 

The solution?

Train yourself to speak in rationalization whenever conflicted with negative thoughts. Part of having a trained psychologist is assisting people to rationalize with themselves based on what’s bothering them most.

Thus, when you catch yourself saying, “I’ll always be alone because I never went on a date and never had a girlfriend,” stop yourself from thinking any further. Think of it as freezing time in your head.

From there, rephrase the sentence you just said by saying something like, “That’s not true because although I never had a girlfriend before, there’s nothing stopping me from getting one today or tomorrow.

If my social skills suck, I’ll just work of them until I get good. It’ll suck to beat my social awkwardness, but I’ll reach my goal with constant practice.”

Sure, telling yourself something like that will sound strange at first. It’ll be like trying to motivate a football team with false hope. But the more you reassure there’s a solution to your downfall, the less anxious you’ll get over it.

If John constantly told himself all he had to do to overcome his social approach was to speak to more people, the idea will become natural to him overtime. Such as training a dog to sit or play dead, you need to train your subconscious to think properly in the background of your mind.

 

Strap Down your Wandering Mind

People often assume it’s their life problems that gives them their anxiety, and if their circumstances could just change to something brighter, they’ll automatically be happy again. But it’s not as simple as that.

Perhaps receiving a million dollars will gradually boost someone’s happiness immensely for a short time, but they can easily be taken hostage by anxiety or depression because of a new array of thoughts.

Maybe Samantha thought a million dollars would help her because she’ll be able to pay off her debts and have the life she wanted. But when she received $1 Million, she realized she needed more if she wanted to do EVERYTHING she ever wanted to try out. She constantly worries the day she’ll run out of money and return back to the poverty life she once had.

Although you might face an uncomfortable lifestyle in whatever area you struggle with, you can’t assume once it changes you’ll find happiness again. A recent Harvard study revealed that stray thoughts and wandering minds are directly related to unhappiness, thus bringing people depression and anxiety.

Their studies had shown that an unruly mind creates unhappiness, and that the keys to happiness lay in mastering the mind instead of changing the external factors in our lives.

Say, for example, that Britney’s big dream was to become an actress and once she landed her first film, she’ll be happy forever. Until she receives that dream, she’ll constantly be anxious and be depressed because she haven’t been on film yet. And overtime, she eventually makes it to her first movie. Initially, she’ll be happy and think she finally acquired what she wanted.

However, as time past, those positive feelings begin to dim. She’ll crave for the same affection she received before and begin wandering if she’ll ever be in another film. She’ll wonder if her next movie will be better than her previous and if she’ll lose her fans.

She worries about her career and compare herself to other actresses who are younger and more beautiful than her. She becomes depressed because she continues to think if she’ll lose it all and be forgotten.

Because Britney mind wandered repeatedly to what could happen to her movie career, it gave her unwanted anxiety and depression. She conjured up false realities when she should have focused on the next task on her list.

 

The solution?

During Harvard’s study, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, one of the world’s leading researchers in positive psychology, described how the mind should behave when applying mindfulness. He found that our happiest moments are when we are in the state of flow, where we are highly alert.

In our state of flow, we’re only focused on one activity and we’re pouring our entire energy into it. Part of the reason activities such as rock climbing, sky diving, and roller coasters bring people such high rushes is that they force people to live in that moment entirely.

You’re not thinking about what you’re going to eat that night, your worries, or what Bill said earlier. You’re only thoughts are focused on every second you’re being tossed in the air, grasping for your very life. That’s what the art of mindfulness aim for. Being present entirely in the moment and not being distracted by nothing else.

Thus, lower your anxiety by living entirely in the moment. If you’re scared of approaching females, don’t think of the conclusion while speaking to them. Live every second you’re speaking to them. Don’t think too much on what to say, just say it. Focus on giving her your entire attention with a smile and tight eye contact.

 

 In final thoughts….FINISH HIM

Since I enjoy Mortal Combat, I wanted to end this off with a few key pointers that’ll lower your anxiety.

1. Start off Your Day Productive Style: Whether you make your bed, brush your teethes, or wash last night dishes, do something productive in the morning. This inputs an idea in your subconscious that you’re a productive individual who can get things done. Think of it as receiving a positive boost in the start of your day.

2. Drink a ton of water: Nothing can go wrong if you drink water instead of anything else. Water cleanses your body and gives you natural energy to carry you throughout the day. It cleans out the toxic junk that’s in your body and raises your immune system.

3. Be nice: As odd as it might sound, setting aside your own needs in exchange for someone else can bring you happiness. There’s something about making another person smile and giving them hope that fills you with joy and excitement. So at least once a day, try to put a smile on someone’s face.

4. Be Active: Part of receiving built in anxiety is not moving your body enough. Your body needs to exert energy and live in the moment whether you’re running, bench pressing, or walking. To get your blood flow moving smoothly, put in the effort to do something that requires actively engaging yourself.

5. Catch up on your Vitamin D: Try to go for 2000 IU daily. A major health problem people face is neglecting the importance of receiving the proper amount of nutrition in their body. This disrupts the way your mind functions and behaves. If you find yourself reacting negatively all of a sudden, try taking daily vitamin pills to correct it.

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Besides being random and dealing with ADHD from time to time, Michael Gregory II is the CEO of the Self Development Workshop. He's traveled to over a dozen countries, counselled a variety of people, and continues furthering his knowledge in self-development, depression, and mastering your happiness. On his lazy days, he enjoy watching people, reading in Starbucks, and speaking to random strangers. (Yeah, he’s weird.)

2 Comments

  1. I am person who is always suffering from anxiety and loneliness. I think your articles will be a great help for me. Keep doing good work.

  2. Hey Riyaz!

    Thank you for your kind words! If you ever have any questions about how to deal with a particular type of anxiety issue, feel free to ask and I’ll give you the best answer I can come up with.

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