How to Know if an Introvert is in Love With You
Although I’m an Introvert such as Michael, I like to think of myself as the one who leans more towards the extroverted side. Another name known for it would be outgoing Introvert or an ambivert. But from the variety of people I’ve gone out with, dating Introverts can be a little tricky when it comes to understanding how they really care about you.
Unlike extroverts, who show it very openly, introverts always have a series of deep thoughts in their heads. Introverts engage in deep conversations, discuss about life and the universe. And when an introvert connects with someone, they form a special connection that’s unusual for them.
Unlike other superficial relationships, you know an Introvert is in love with you when they display a true level of vulnerability to you. They speak to you about what’s really in their hearts. They reveal why they’re depressed, happy, or their true goals or aspirations.
When Introverts fall for someone, they fall HARD because they normally don’t let anyone too close. For an Introvert, they keep a series of information to themselves away from their family, friends, and strangers. But when it involves someone they’re romantically interested in, they reveal personal information that relates to their true thoughts about the world. Even for close friends or relatives, Introverts can feel a slight hesitant to telling them what’s bothering them or how they really feel about a subject.
Although Michael cares for his family, he still doesn’t feel comfortable with telling them about what bothers him with work or personal life issues. So behind closed doors when I usually least expect it, he finds it the perfect moment to tell me his thoughts because there was no force or expectations to tell me his thoughts. It was the time he deemed readied to tell me his thoughts because he trusts me and know I won’t judge him after he shows me his heart.
If you’re curious to know if an introvert is in love with you or you’ll like to know the signs, here is a guideline that will help you.
They Push Their Boundaries For You
For Introverts, it’s not usual for them to step outside of their comfort zone. Whether it’s trying new things out to eat, doing activities they’ve never experienced before, or sacrificing their alone time, you’ll know an Introvert is either falling for you or in love with you. Introverts love their silent time alone because it’s the only time they could truly feel like themselves.
But there’s a worth wild feeling of neglecting those pleasures in exchange for spending time with someone who makes you feel special and wanted. Normally Michael doesn’t like attending large crowds like Comic Con, Beaches, or Theme Parks. But because I’d like him to be there with me, he gets over his annoyance for those events in exchange to spend it with me.
They Want to Know the Real You
If you notice an Introvert digging deeper to understand your dreams, passions, and desires, there’s a sign that they’re truly interested in you for the long run. The more an Introvert trusts you the more they want to get pass the small talk and into a real conversation that lets them see the color of your soul. You’ll then start to notice that they pay close attention to you and the small things you like.
One of the ways Michael spoils me is buying me my favorite bag of chips, candy, or drink without me asking for anything. I like to think of myself as a simple person because I don’t care about the big things like fancy jewelry or expensive dinners. I love the small things in life like hugs, small snacks, a morning text, or a rub to my scalp. When someone pays close attention to the small things you love and notice the signs that other people miss, that’s a connection you don’t want to neglect.
Understand an Introvert likes to keep things slow
Despite the fast age we live in, it still takes time for an Introvert to show their true mind to you. It’s simply the way they’re wired. Unlike extroverts or others, although an Introvert can have feelings for you, they might be reluctant to react to those emotions or remain caution of them until they’re certain those feelings are real. They reflect on their experiences with you, soak in the conversations, and take time to process those feelings.
Michael didn’t reveal what he thought about me or the status of our relationship. It took time before he felt comfortable to tell me his true thoughts because of the time it took to know how I would react to him. Even if an Introvert can have deep feelings for you, don’t expect them to immediately tell you about their true feelings. Like a flower, they need time to grow comfortable telling you those kind of thoughts.
Yes, Introverts Do Fall in Love with Extroverts
A question that people sometimes challenge me with is how an Introvert can fall in love with an extrovert or someone with extroverted habits. At first I considered it an odd combination because they both lived totally different lifestyles. Why would an extrovert get along with someone who loves to stay in the house all day? But surprisingly it works extremely well.
If he gets to choose, Michael would choose to stay in the house every night as I’d liked to go out and try different activities throughout the week. As a result, we compromise by going out together around 2 – 3 times a week to keep it balance. But what’s really amazing is how we ended up both admiring and envying each other at the same time.
If you’re an extrovert, you’ll notice their sudden willingness to do “extroverted” activities with you. Despite the desire to stay in the house, if an Introvert loves spending time with you, they’ll sacrifice their needs for yours. Seeing your happiness is enough to make them happy even if it goes again their nature.
I find it amazing how someone could ignore the entire world as he recharges his mentality as it takes people to recharge my mentality. But as threatening as it can seem for us, I find it just as exciting. We teach each other different perspectives about life and have grown from them.
Never remove the idea that you can’t have a relationship with an extrovert because it’s nonsense. Love will always form between two people if the chemistry is right despite their personality types.
You Paint an Introvert’s World
When an Introvert begins to develop true feelings for you, they analyze the situation thoroughly. There’s a chance they might try to resist the feelings, but the more an Introvert starts to develop true feelings for you the more you paint a new reality in their world.
But the more you paint an Introvert’s world, the more the get you involved in it. They show you their work such as the stories they write, the pictures they drawn, the music they created. They reveal a non-sexual sensual side of themselves that’ll let you see who they really are. And as much as I’d hate to say it, it’s a very sexy trait when an Introvert shows you their artistic side.
Back when we first met, it took time before Michael felt comfortable showing his work or his love to play the piano. As for me, it was exciting to show Michael activities he never saw himself getting into such as yoga, swimming and spending time outside.
The more he saw me enjoying these activities, the more willing he was to try them out himself since they made me happy. Before Michael, I never really considered writing as a fun activity until he introduced me to it. Now I’m on his website sharing my own thoughts with the rest of the world.
How to Deal with an Introvert
If you’re dating an Introvert or there’s an Introvert you want to date, don’t force or pressure them to love you. You may feel like an outsider to their world, but once you gain an insight into their world, that’s a special bond you don’t normally receive.
Don’t expect an Introvert to make the first move or reveal their true feelings about you. Even if an Introvert can have a cold-hard face towards you, it means they have their guard up because they’re afraid to show what they are really feeling.
Introverts like to overthink when assessing a situation and most can be afraid of telling someone how they really feel because the other person might not reciprocate the same feelings. But as you remain in a relationship with an Introvert, you notice that they really do love you through all the small signs that shows you’re an important figure in their life.
Michael isn’t an easy Introvert to be with. He hates saying the “L” word because even to this day he has insecurities about saying it aloud. It’s like he has this weird belief that if he says it a certain amount of time, he’ll use it all up. But he’s an expert by showing his love through the small ways he spoils me. By the way he treats me. By the way he looks at me. And that’s what you’ll receive too when an Introvert is in love with you.
It’s not easy for an Introvert to let their guard down when they’re dating someone because of the repercussions that may result if the relationship comes to an end. An Introvert might have had a previous relationship that ended horribly and scarred them from easily revealing their emotions.
Like I said before, once an Introvert falls in love with you, they fall HARD. That’s why patience is key when you’re with an Introvert and that’s one of the most important factors to keep in mind.