I don’t care how cliche it is.
I’m a former 4.0 student who is currently struggling to even pass my high school classes right now. I’m a sophomore, and I am so overwhelmed and behind on school work that I literally cannot bring myself to do anything. My parents have incredibly high expectations of me, and the idea of failing them makes this even worse. I’m so depressed, and I don’t know how to get out of this rut. If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate the help. Thank you so much.
1. You are not alone- there’s your cliche for the day. But it is, rather unfortunately, the absolute truth. Not just in being depressed, but in feeling like you have to constantly live up to your parents expectations (literally been there too…).
I went to a rather competitive high school, so I saw so many other students like myself, and it sounds like you too, who were constantly freaking out about grades.
I have a good friend who had a panic attack at home the night before an exam, but didn’t know what it was.
She turned blue because she wasn’t breathing, her parents called an ambulance, and after a few breathing exercises she was fine- but by the time she had graduated high school, she was seeing a psychiatrist as well.
2. If you address this issue, you will get better! I’m serious. I am most certainly NOT saying it is an easy one to address, but really, too many people see depression as incurable.
You may struggle with it your whole life, but most likely not to the point that it is actually a real struggle.
That friend mentioned in number 3? She has not needed antidepressants or talk therapy for years, has a much more balanced view on schoolwork and prioritizing, and is about to finish law school at NYU. Not too shabby, eh?
I know why I have anxiety (fear to lose elo, I value elo to much) I know how to correct the problem (say fuck it and just queue/stop caring about elo/pride). Just no matter how much a realize it though, I can’t get over this irrational fear lol. I have read various posts on how to overcome the anxiety etc. nothing seems to work though. Was curious on your thoughts/methods to overcome the anxiety?